I apologize in advance to anyone this blog post might upset.
However, I need to say this because it’s something I’ve been thinking, and last night’s episode of the show really solidified my thoughts.
My sister is obsessed with the show The Bachelorette, so for the past two weeks, I’ve watched the Monday episodes with her and my mom. A. Because there really wasn’t a choice, and B. when something is in front of me, I’m going to watch it.
Having watched a mere two episodes, I have come to one conclusion about the show — it has a horrible message.
I’m sorry, but if a ‘real marriage’ is supposed to result at the end of that show, it is for ALL of the wrong reasons and is why today’s media has such a negative influence on us.
Again, I’m sorry, but no REAL relationship comes from one woman dating 30 guys until she’s found the ‘one’ she’s most compatible with, all the while kissing every single one of the guys and making them all fall in love with her.
I know from experience that heart break can hurt, and watching this show, you can tell some of the feelings are actually real. And you watch this show, feeling for all these guys pouring their hearts out, realizing in the end, she can only choose just one.
So the show sets up heartbreak for each and every one of the guys that ISN’T going to get the girl in the end. Then they just get kicked off the show to continue their lives being miserable because they lost a girl they actually really cared for.
On top of this just being an issue with the show in general, this season has been a little different, as the bachelorette, Des, has shown obvious feelings for one of the men over the rest, Brooks, whom she claims to be in love with.
Well I can only LOL (literally) because the story of LIFE happened. In last night’s episode, Brooks admits he’s having second thoughts about being with Des.
So as she’s down to the bottom three, with these two other adorable, awesome guys FAWNING over her, she’s crying because the one she ‘really loves’ is second guessing the relationship.
Hey ladies and gents, incase you haven’t learned this in life yet, (which i’m sure you have), YOU ALWAYS WANT WHAT YOU CAN’T HAVE.
I could have told you – after only watching 2 episodes – that this Brooks guy clearly didn’t like her as much as she liked him.
And then there are these two other guys, both awesome in every way, who actually do love her, and she ‘just can’t love them the way she loves Brooks.’
HELLO, it’s because he doesn’t like her. It’s just the game. Like I said, you always want what you can’t have.
Of course she’s obsessed with this guy Brooks. Because he’s the ONE guy out of 30 who has shown some doubt, who hasn’t said I love you, and who isn’t eating out of the palm of her hand.
So the episode ends with Des being heart broken, and a million heart-throbbing viewers sympathizing along with her.
I want to feel sorry for her, but this is a reality t.v. show.
Heartbreak happens to regular girls on a daily basis. But ones who don’t have two other guys waiting in the wings to sweep them off their feet.
I’m sorry, I can’t sympathize with this bachelorette for losing her ‘one true love’ she met on a reality t.v. show, while she has two other amazing guys standing right there.
But hey, that’s just me.
In my eyes, this show has a pretty horrible message. It basically portrays the idea that you should date 30 guys until you find one compatible with you, go home, meet their parents, tell them how awesome their son is, then marry another guy and leave them for heartbreak.
Is this just me here?
I’m sorry for all of you Bachelorette advocates. If you love the show, by all means, go for it. But the storyline truly breaks my heart and I can’t seem to figure out what’s so appealing about it.
So, I will stick to my happy shows like Arrested Development and New Girl. At least when people are heartbroken then, it’s scripted.
Sorry for this rant, but hey, what is a blog for but to express yourself?